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Here are the five different relationship scenarios based on the premise that people want to gain pleasure and avoid pain:

The Big One: High pleasure/low pain
A Friend: Medium pleasure/low pain
Acquaintances Low pleasure/low pain
Crazy Love High pleasure/high pain
The Enemy Low pleasure/high pain

So what do you look for in a man in order to enjoy pleasure and avoid pain consistently over time?

If you look closely and evaluate wisely, there are some intelligent ways to see through the clever disguises of men. Here are some good reasons why you shouldn’t be into these guys either:

HE’S A LOSER, NOT A WINNER
A person with winning traits is the only one who will be capable of delivering consistent pleasure and very little pain. Remember that all big fish are winners. Don’t waste your precious time, energy, and emotion on long-shot losers. Their excuses of bad luck rarely change.


HE FLUNKS THE CHEMISTRY TEST
A Greek proverb reads, “Love can not grow without passion.” If a man doesn’t drive your passion, you have no chance at the big romance, even if he has a fat wallet. Remember to go for a man who turns you on, not off. There is no substitute for chemistry.


HE’S “A CHARACTER” WITH NO CHARACTER
Men can be very charming with their manly strengths and boyish personalities. But underneath a man’s charm lies a foundation of character. If consistent, lasting, and fulfilling love is your objective, character is one of your only reliable indicators.


HE’S A COOL GUY, BUT WITH NO WARMTH
An undeniable and mysterious part of us seems to be attracted to cool, aloof people. But if you want a relationship with warmth, caring, sensitivity, and compassion, be sure that the ones you want also possess these vital emotional qualities for love. A man can only give away to you what he possesses inside.


HE’S A LIFESTYLE MISMATCH, NOT A MATCH
Even the most charming, attractive, and exciting men may not be right for you. If you don’t have similar values and lifestyles, differences may start to accumulate, deepen, and widen. Remember that opposites may attract initially, but tend to repel consistently over time. In the long-run, similar values and lifestyle habits create the most secure and lasting relationship bonds. So while differences may be welcomed in style (and create some interesting relationship blends), they are not in substance.


YOU HAVE A PERSONALITY CLASH, NOT A COMPLIMENT
There’s no denying that everyone enjoys the company of an interesting person with a so-called “good personality.” However some personalities will blend better with yours than others. Repeated personality conflict usually means a large amount of emotional pain. Choose harmony instead of conflict in a loving relationship if you truly want secure, long-term, and consistent happiness.


HIS RELATIONSHIP GOALS END AT THE 50 YARD LINE
Unfortunately, a lot of men only want as much pleasure as they can get with the least amount of work, time, or commitment. The best that they want is a part-time girlfriend with occasional exceptions of romance. If there is no promise of him becoming a true full-time partner, then you have to realize that he not interested in going all the way in the relationship sense, not the sexual one.

*THE BOTTOM LINE: There is nothing simple about men whether it is trying to catch them or understand them. But an intelligent approach to defining exactly what you want and what you don’t want will lead you in the right direction toward love and happiness and away from pain and suffering.